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By Julie Fielder
Attorney

As the Baby Boomer generation continues to approach retirement age, more Americans may soon find themselves caring for their elderly parents.  According to MetLife, who provides a wide range of insurance options, over 10 million adult children over 50 are caring for an elderly parent.  This figure is expected to grow in the coming years.  Caring for an elderly loved one is a tremendous responsibility.  It is not always easy to know when to step in or what to do in order to ensure your aging parent receives the care they need.  Our San Ramon, California elder law attorneys offer some tips for when and how you can step in to assist your aging loved one.  

Know When Help is Needed

It can be difficult to ascertain when your help is needed, as age alone is not necessarily an indicator.  Not all seniors will need help as they age, while other elderly people may be in need of assistance, despite insisting they are fine.  As such, it is important that you recognize the signs that your elderly loved one may need your help.  Be on the lookout for warning signs, including frequent falls or unexplained bruises, an empty fridge, financial issues, and unopened mail.  Frequent visits are one of the best ways to get a clear picture on the physical and mental health of your aging loved one.

Develop a Unanimous Plan

If the time has come to step in and provide additional care for your elderly loved one, you should start by developing a plan that the whole family supports.  Speak with all of the relatives involved to brain storm a solution, but be sure to allow your loved one with input as well once you approach him or her.  Consider starting with small, easy changes that still allow your loved one independence.

Meet with an Elder Law Attorney

To provide effective care for your aging loved one, you will need to ensure you have the necessary legal protections.  Meet with an elder law attorney for assistance with having your loved one create a durable power of attorney and living will. These documents are vital for allowing you as a family member to be able to step in when faced with a financial or medical emergency.  

About the Author
Julie M. Fiedler, an Attorney at Law, has been a resident of San Ramon since 1988. With over 30 years of experience in healthcare and senior services as a Registered Nurse, she is recognized as a Certified Elder Law Attorney (CELA) by the National Elder Law Foundation. Julie is accredited by the Department of Veterans Affairs to assist individuals with VA benefits. Her extensive involvement includes serving on the Board of Directors for the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, Inc., and as the past President of the Northern California Chapter of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys. She is an active member of California Advocates for Nursing Home Reform and ElderCounsel. Additionally, Julie Fiedler has contributed her leadership skills as President of the Adult Day Services Network of Contra Costa.